I have found it curious (sometimes funny) how we can do something nice to communicate appreciation, fondness, missing someone, or even love and have to deal with unforeseen negative ripple effects. For example,
the last ship I was stationed on in the Navy was home-ported out of the Bay area. Since most operations involving other members of the Pacific Fleet involved working with ships out of San Diego, this meant that I spent a lot of time at sea, or in port in San Diego away from my bride and children. It became a habit that in addition to phone calls as often as I could, I would send flowers to Pam to convey my love. I would do the same when the ship was in Hawaii. Nothing fancy (one can only afford so much on enlisted pay) but a bouquet to say “I love you and I miss you”. One evening I was pretty much doing nothing when a shipmate approached me and I could see he was upset and for some reason he appeared to be upset with me. My suspicions proved true when in an agitated voice he said,
“I just got off the phone with Kathy (his wife) and she is mad because she has been talking with Pam. Pam told her that you sent flowers and that you do so on a regular basis!”
A little confused at my sending flowers sounding like an accusation, I replied,
“yeah, that’s true”.
Then the reason for his agitated state was revealed,
“well, Kathy is madder than hops at me cause I don’t ever send flowers! You need to stop sending Pam flowers cause you are making me look bad!”
That conversation did not work out for him because I did not stop and let him deal with the consequences of not sending flowers to his wife. I guess he fell into the category of the husband who when accused of never telling his wife he loved her, said: “I told you when I married you twenty-five years ago that I loved you. If I ever change my mind, I will let you know”.
This little piece of my history came to mind because it is February and many a husband, boyfriend, or want-to-be boyfriend give the economy a boost through the sale of flowers, chocolates and even jewelry. When we wish to communicate to a special someone “I love you”; “I still love you after all these years”; sometimes we even multi-task and our expression of love includes a “I know I have been a bonehead, but remember, I love you”. Guys are not the only ones who use Valentine’s Day to express their love. Women have been known to be just as enthusiastic in conveying their love on this special day. Valentine’s Day is a day when we each share with that special someone that we love them. It does not mean that we love them less on other days of the year; at least I hope not. “I love you” should be words spoken by couples to each other every day they draw breath.
“I love you” are words that we should use every day to express our hearts to our Lord. Those are not words
that are to be held in check until we find ourselves in worship services on Sunday. These words conveying our
hearts, as well as words conveying our gratitude for Him loving us, redeeming us, and living in us are not to follow the philosophy of the old codger that did not feel it necessary to remind his wife he loved her. They are to be part of our daily vocabulary and meditations. The Psalmist wrote in Psalm 116:1-2“I love the Lord, because He has heard my voice and my pleas for mercy, because He inclined His ear to me, therefore I will call on Him as long as I live.”(ESV). Let us with each waking day, remember that God hears us and our cries, and remind Him
of our love.
Have a blessed February,
Thoughts From the Fourth Corner
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ANNUAL CHILI COOK-OFF!
Sunday, February 23rd after Worship and Word
Bring your favorite recipe of chili to be judged by popular vote. A prize will be awarded.
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